I must have read at least a hundred self development books and signed up for a dozen self-help courses dealing with weight issues, self-care, fitness, cleanses and stress management over the years!
The problem was to make any of the methods stick. I started every Program or book very enthusiastically the first couple of days or weeks. However, I always found myself at the same place – back to my old habits of not exercising, not eating well and self medicating my emotional state with biscuits, chocolate and wine.
I’ve now come to realise that a lot of what make us staying stuck in our old ways of treating ourselves and our bodies has a lot to do with our emotional state and how well we have dealt with stress, set-backs, loss and big changes in our lives. If you have learned that you are not valuable enough to take really good care of, you won’t. If you have learned to stuff your emotions with treats, that’s what you will continue to do.
Do you have memories of coming home crying because someone had done something mean, and your mother (not meaning any harm!) says “Don’t cry, let’s have some ice cream instead.”. It’s really hard to do something about that on your own. I know, because I’ve tried and failed countless time.
So what is it that you are really eating? Are you indeed eating a piece of chocolate, or are you eating guilt? Are you eating a nice, tasty pizza or are you trying to fill your empty heart with comfort? Are you sipping a lovely Chianti wine (one of my favourites), or are you numbing the pain from a recent loss?
And what are you saying to yourself when you eat? Nice things or not so very nice things? Write it down and have a close look at your inner dialogue! What needs to be changed?
Have a think about that and then make sure you join my Inner Circle in the box below so you can be the first to know about my new service I’m adding on the 2nd of June! And yes, it will help you address AND release the issues I mentioned in this blog post 😉
And again, I can STRONGLY recommend reading Jessica Ortner’s book “The Tapping Solution for weight loss and body confidence“!