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I feel truly blessed!

For the first time ever I feel that I’m doing something meaningful! The amount of trust I’m given from the clients I meet, and to witness them work through really difficult issues makes me feel so blessed!

Grief is so much more than death, separation or divorce and there are so many people living a limited life because they are carrying around old, unresolved grief. These unresolved issues could be anything from moving, changing schools or losing a beloved pet to loss of trust, loss of self worth or loss of your physical body through illness or abuse. It’s just that we haven’t been taught that these issues, and many more, needs to be taken care of and resolved so that the person can move on in life. It’s so easy to be stuck with old memories and wrongdoings. We get reminded of them from time to time and all of a sudden we find ourselves experiencing the whole emotional trauma over and over again!

Have you ever thought about a sad memory and felt that thug in your heart?

I have, many times. I only had to think about the day we got Ingrid’s diagnosis and the day she passed away and immediately I was feeling the same exact feelings, remembering every detail about what I wore, what she wore, what was said and who was sitting where. That was so incredible painful! Now I can look back on these days and cherish the memories without being thrown in to all those traumatic feelings, and what a relief that is!

 

 

Now certified at the Swedish Grief Recovery Institute

The last week of September I travelled up to Stockholm from Zurich, leaving my kids for the longest time EVER in their lives! The reason was to attend a certification course in the Grief Recovery Program™ at the Swedish Grief Recovery Institute in Stockholm.

So what is grief really and how do you know if you are stuck in unresolved grief?

There are more than 40 events that can create the range of human emotions called grief. Death of a Loved One [or Less Than Loved One], Divorce, Estrangements, Financial Changes and Health Issues head the list. Whether the loss was recent or long ago, it may still be limiting your ability to participate fully in life. The Grief Recovery Personal Workshop assists in the ultimate journey back to your heart and to the mainstream of your life.

To feel sad when you’ve experienced a loss  is normal and natural. However, most of us lack theknowledge how to actually go through a natural grieving process. Instead  we are surrounded bydifferent myths and fears about grief and sadness in our society. Lack of knowledge and insulationare the two main reasons that grief remains unresolved.

IMG_2954The Grief Recovery OUTREACH Program®

The Grief Recovery Outreach Program® is a proven action plan for people who want to process the pain that their losses have caused. The program is designed to provide you with knowledge on how to redeem your grief so that you are able to participate fully in life.

During the program you will complete your own grief processes. It is my role as an instructor to provide you with instructions, tools and support, but you will have to complete the work yourself. The program is not a therapy, but instead a way to provide you with  knowledge and offer support so that you can go through and complete your own grieving processes.

The course material we use is developed by John W. James and Russell Friedman who, during the last 30 years, personally have helped more than 25,000 mourners. For more information about the method you can read more at the Griefrecoverymethod.com or sorg.se (in Swedish).

I’m now certified to offer you  individual sessions where we meet 8 times x 1 hour or group sessions where we meet 12 times x 2 hours. I offer the sessions in Swedish, English or German.

For more information about the program, bookings and rates, please contact me at karin@hagelingriefrecovery.com.

Lots of love, Karin

“I have a big sister and her name is Ingrid”

We have managed to shock quite a few people during our holiday in Sweden this year. The reason being that Elin is now big enough to share her world with people she meets (and that are not immediate family or friends), and she proudly tells everone that she has got a big sister who is called Ingrid.

Many then look at me as if asking “Is she making this up?” and I then find myself smiling a bit apologeticly for having to “shock” them with the news that it’s true and that Ingrid is in heaven. Then there is a short pause and maybe an “oh” or “I understand”and that’s it. I’m not saying that it’s wrong, hurtful or even irritating, it just is what it is.

I have to get used to my children speaking freely about the fact that they do have a big sister in heaven. And I have to make sure that I can support them with words and stories in order to help them tell others about their reality. Ingrid is so present in our lives and that is how we wanted it to be, no secrets and no hiding the fact because her younger sister and brother are too small to hear the truth.

So if anyone out there knows of a good book for children who has a sibling in heaven, and that is POSITIVE and FUN, please share, also so I can share it on to other families in similar situations!!! Thanks and have a fantastic day!

                                    Elin and Victor planting flowers for Ingrid <3

I’m doing it!!!!

I’m actually doing it!! First of all I’ve found yet another a brilliant partner for our business, I’ll tell you about it all later but it’s going to be SMASHING! Second, I’ve managed to get this blog into a .com world so now I can brag about having my very own .com address: karinanderssonhagelin.com

Third I’ve managed to find back to my focus which I lost on Friday, well, I will always have good days and less good ones and that’s OK but Friday was a “need to escape down town for a coffee” kind of day. I have found the perfect book for me regarding business planning, a book that takes me back to the FUN of going on this journey. It’s called “The right brain business plan” by Jennifer Lee and it looks more like a scrapbooking/create vision boards/draw kind of book in comparison with the business school ones I have (and haven’t been able to finish as I got so frustrated and also very bored reading….). I’m not saying that that’s not needed too but I really needed to come back to the fun and play and not think of this as yet another demanding, boring, frustrating JOB. This journey is supposed to be inspiring, not another “have to”.

It’s time to pick up the kids now, but tomorrow it’s time to start getting down on paper (and preferably on line) a NAME and some little steps towards a smashing web site for our idea. It will now cover courses/seminars in both Swedish, English and some of it in German in subjects ranging from positive pregnancy to positive parenting!! So if you have any fun, inspiring, cool names for a business like that PLEASE leave a comment down below.