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How do I get the pieces of the puzzle together nicely?

I just read this wonderful quote and it felt exactly as if the words were written for me right now. I’ve tried to explain it to friends as the feeling you have when you know that you are about to get a clear view (finally) of where you are and where you are going but you are not out of the woods yet and therefor can’t see a thing.

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

Thomas Edson

It’s really frustrating and despite knowing that those thoughts are not helpful at all, I just can’t help myself getting stuck in the thinking pattern of “What the heck am I  supposed to be doing and how will I make money?” I just don’t want to miss my opportunity to shine in the world and to SERVE others by being the best ME that I could possibly be, so well described in this other genius quote I read recently:

 “There is a vitality, a life force, an energy a quickening that is translated through you into action and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is, nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours, clearly and directly, to keep the channel open.”

Martha Graham

It’s just that RIGHT NOW, this very minute I’m not at all clear on how to put the pieces of the puzzle together. I know what I’m good at and what I do with ease, but I just don’t know how to “package” it or make it a valid business. Just needed to get it off my chest and be done with it (and save it for the record 😉 )!

 I’m guided, life supports me and I’m safe. Love you all!

“I have a big sister and her name is Ingrid”

We have managed to shock quite a few people during our holiday in Sweden this year. The reason being that Elin is now big enough to share her world with people she meets (and that are not immediate family or friends), and she proudly tells everone that she has got a big sister who is called Ingrid.

Many then look at me as if asking “Is she making this up?” and I then find myself smiling a bit apologeticly for having to “shock” them with the news that it’s true and that Ingrid is in heaven. Then there is a short pause and maybe an “oh” or “I understand”and that’s it. I’m not saying that it’s wrong, hurtful or even irritating, it just is what it is.

I have to get used to my children speaking freely about the fact that they do have a big sister in heaven. And I have to make sure that I can support them with words and stories in order to help them tell others about their reality. Ingrid is so present in our lives and that is how we wanted it to be, no secrets and no hiding the fact because her younger sister and brother are too small to hear the truth.

So if anyone out there knows of a good book for children who has a sibling in heaven, and that is POSITIVE and FUN, please share, also so I can share it on to other families in similar situations!!! Thanks and have a fantastic day!

                                    Elin and Victor planting flowers for Ingrid <3

When mommy breaks…

All of a sudden my back decided to give up on me! It started this Saturday, in the evening, and the pain spread down my left leg until it got so painful that I could no longer walk.

Sunday was mostly spent crying from pain and my kids were confused as to why their normally fit and very active mom was now lying on the cough crying like a baby. The doctor had to come and hit me with the strongest painkillers available in her doctors bag, Elin watched with big eyes and then ran off to get her own doctor kit, so sweet!

So now I’m stuck, can’t lift my son up to change his diapers, can’t sit by their bed side telling stories, can’t cook, clean or do the laundry. The only thing I can do is lie down and rest my back. Luckily I’ve got the best husband ever, even if I can see that it’s very stressful for him to be home from work and managing everything when I can just lie there and watch. Frustrating for me as well, as I’m normally the one getting everything done!

I just want to stress HOW IMPORTANT it is for the mother to be fit, happy and strong. I even lectured about just that for the Spoogle group at Google Zurich office on Thursday (more on that in my next post), and then I end up breaking myself! Maybe I will now understand the importance of eating well, exercise and take EXTRA SPECIAL GOOD CARE of myself from now on. It doesn’t do anyone in the family good when mommy breaks, please remember that and take care of yourself!

 

Alfalfa sprouts – how and why on earth you should start growing them!

I’ve always been keen on growing things, but then I got busy with other things like kids, home, work etc etc etc… My mom was here recently and she had us all start cultivation thinks in jars, empty egg boxes and the kids even got a little green house to grow things in. Since then I’m hooked! It’s so nice to come in the kitchen, attend to the little jar with Alfalfa sprouts and see them grow, and then start organising for breakfast. It’s easy, fun, goes fast, the kids enjoy watching it and mom enjoys eating it! Here is some nurtitional values for you to concider (and get inspired to get a jar going yourself 😉 ):

 

“Alfalfa sprouts juice contains a myriad of valuable nutrients such as calcium, folic acid, magnesium, manganese, molybdenum, phosphorus, potassium, silicon, sodium, zinc.

This is the only plant that supplies the full range of vitamins, from vitamin A, B complex (even B12), C, E to K. Alfalfa sprouts placed in indirect sun for a couple of days before harvesting, even produce nutritious blood-healing chlorophyll.” From www.juicing-for-health.com

 

How? Just get yourself a glass jar (like the one on the pic for example), a bag of Alfalfa sprouts, rinse them with water and leave them to start growing! You have to rinse them with water in the morning and in the evening – that’s it!

So, why on earth? Because it’s FUN, HEALTHY and tastes DELICIOUS on anything except desserts.

Tell me how it goes, folks!

Not OK!

So what if you have a big sister who is absolutely crazy about princesses and lives in her princess dress the WHOLE time? Would you not start to wonder what you are missing out on? I would for sure! So did Victor and insisted on trying this magic dress on! I laughed so hard and just had to send a pic over What’sApp to daddy – the answer I got was “Not OK” 🙂 LOL!!!!! Anyway, he’s the prettiest princess ever <3

I’ve also decided to re-name my blog from Goals are Dreams with a deadline – it was a bit too ambitious and I do want to start writing more about how I actually cope with the family puzzle myself, now that we have a company named Parenthood Puzzle! Well, it’s time to practice what you preach and hence the new name – A mother’s quest to solve the parenthood puzzle 🙂 What do you think about the name? I’m really curious!