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Want to know what I was up to this weekend?

Posting this video is also triggering a lot of fear in me, and that’s exactly why I’m doing it! It might not be the greatest quality, best sound, best content ever, but as I read in a quote on Facebook the other day, YOU CAN’T COMPARE YOUR CHAPTER ONE TO SOMEONE ELSES CHAPTER 20!!! My role models right now are Marie Forleo, Gabrielle Bernstein and Lilou Macè, and they are on chapter 100 or further so no point in comparing myself to them. However, they inspire me to want to BECOME better and better in doing video blogs, sharing free content and inspire YOU to grow and learn and that means that I have to step out of my comfort zone and face my fears.

So enjoy this little video about my fear of being alone for a weekend :-), and I encourage you to really have a think about what fears that are blocking you from living your dream!!!

 

Can broken dreams cause grief?

Broken dreamsA lot of people react when I tell them what I work with, and most of them say “Luckily nothing terrible has happened to me yet.” or “I haven’t lost anyone close to me, but when I do I know who to call.” That’s all fine, of course, it’s not that I wish for anyone to have a traumatic experience so I can have something to do!

But what about the time you had a really bad break up with someone? Maybe that shattered not only your heart, but also the dream of you two being together, starting a family and growing old together?  Or what about the loss of a job, and hence loss of financial security and a dream of a career within that company or field? Or moving abroad (as we expats have done), not only being a big adventure, but also bringing with it the loss of familiarity, language, friends, and (often) the ability to be present at big life events such as weddings, christenings, funerals, or birthdays.

So in what way does the Grief Recovery Method® help you get rid of the pain and frustration that broken dreams brings with it? You might have been trying a number of different things to feel better again, but are tired of trying and “failing” yet another “self help” method. What could possibly be different with this Program?

For me, it’s been the simple fact that I got to take a good look at all my disappointments, losses and broken dreams in my life so far. I’ve looked at the myths I’ve been taught how to deal with loss, all the intellectual comments I’ve heard when in grief, and all the (often unconscious) behaviours I’ve been using in order to avoid facing my feelings triggered by a traumatic event (food, anger, frustration, TV…).

It’s like taking out the weeds by the roots instead of either ignoring them completely (yet knowing perfectly well that they are still there), or swearing about their presence but refusing to do anything about it!  For me, it was a clear and logical step-by-step action plan that finally quietened a majority of my extremely limiting “Why’s?”, “What if’s” and “If only’s”. I say majority, because the job never gets completely done. I would be lying if I said that you would be living happily ever after just by working through this Program.

But your you will have a brand new set of extremely helpful tools to help you handle major life events. You will have taken back the responsibility how you let those events affect you, and therefore you get to decide how to feel and what kind of support you need. I was so good at giving away the power over my own emotions to others, but now I ask myself this question when faced with a situation that triggers all these scary emotions: “To who or what do I give the power to control how I feel in this very moment, and why?”, and that is something I did not do before!

So if you want to know more about me, what the Grief Recovery Method® is, and if it is for you at all(!), please feel free to book a first meeting for FREE with me either in person or on Skype!

Karin Andersson Hagelin

Here you can read what others have said after finishing the Grief Recovery Outreach Program with me. 

 

Much Love, Karin

 

I’m a proud Momtrepreneur!

Hi all, I do write a lot about my work but I just heard this lovely term, Momtrepreneur, the other day and I just felt compelled to write about it!

So how does a Momtrepreneur “work”day look like?

07:00-08:00 Make sure that the kids wake up, have breakfast, brushing teeth (with a lot of threatening about  the trolls eating your teeth if you don’t…), get dressed (hopefully shoes on the right foot, sort of matching clothes, and hopefully finding all the out door gear you need to wear this time of year) – and BREATHE!

Photo taken by Elin, 4 years old08:00 Start the little trip up to Kindergarten, there are a lot of secret paths, leaves, cats, friends and other fun things to stop and look at on the way. Sometimes carrying a kid (15 kg) on one arm and extra gear, bags and a bicycle on the other…

09:00 Get the house back in order, start some washing, check if we have food (if not, too bad!), and get in the car to drive off to my Grief Recovery client. Fist making sure that all is packed, printed and in order 🙂

10:00-11:00 Grief Recovery work! LOVE IT LOVE IT LOVE IT!!

11-12 Dash back home, start lunch, close the computer and end the Grief Recovery work day. Did I accomplish all I needed to have done without having kids in the house… Most of the time the answer is NO! (no, really?!)

12:00 Kindergarten finishes, run up to Kindergarten, just sliding in to the yard as they open the door and the kids are pouring out!  Pick up my daughter <3

12:15 -> Cook, eat, draw, bake, organise play dates…. So that’s how it looks like!

Lunch time!

I’m sure I’m going to look back at this time and as my “younger self”what I was thinking, starting up a business with two small kids! But it also shows that if you have found your passion, which I have in case you haven’t figured that one out yet ( 😉 , you just find the time to get it all done!

And my secret weapon (yes, I admit):

I feel truly blessed!

For the first time ever I feel that I’m doing something meaningful! The amount of trust I’m given from the clients I meet, and to witness them work through really difficult issues makes me feel so blessed!

Grief is so much more than death, separation or divorce and there are so many people living a limited life because they are carrying around old, unresolved grief. These unresolved issues could be anything from moving, changing schools or losing a beloved pet to loss of trust, loss of self worth or loss of your physical body through illness or abuse. It’s just that we haven’t been taught that these issues, and many more, needs to be taken care of and resolved so that the person can move on in life. It’s so easy to be stuck with old memories and wrongdoings. We get reminded of them from time to time and all of a sudden we find ourselves experiencing the whole emotional trauma over and over again!

Have you ever thought about a sad memory and felt that thug in your heart?

I have, many times. I only had to think about the day we got Ingrid’s diagnosis and the day she passed away and immediately I was feeling the same exact feelings, remembering every detail about what I wore, what she wore, what was said and who was sitting where. That was so incredible painful! Now I can look back on these days and cherish the memories without being thrown in to all those traumatic feelings, and what a relief that is!

 

 

Now certified at the Swedish Grief Recovery Institute

The last week of September I travelled up to Stockholm from Zurich, leaving my kids for the longest time EVER in their lives! The reason was to attend a certification course in the Grief Recovery Program™ at the Swedish Grief Recovery Institute in Stockholm.

So what is grief really and how do you know if you are stuck in unresolved grief?

There are more than 40 events that can create the range of human emotions called grief. Death of a Loved One [or Less Than Loved One], Divorce, Estrangements, Financial Changes and Health Issues head the list. Whether the loss was recent or long ago, it may still be limiting your ability to participate fully in life. The Grief Recovery Personal Workshop assists in the ultimate journey back to your heart and to the mainstream of your life.

To feel sad when you’ve experienced a loss  is normal and natural. However, most of us lack theknowledge how to actually go through a natural grieving process. Instead  we are surrounded bydifferent myths and fears about grief and sadness in our society. Lack of knowledge and insulationare the two main reasons that grief remains unresolved.

IMG_2954The Grief Recovery OUTREACH Program®

The Grief Recovery Outreach Program® is a proven action plan for people who want to process the pain that their losses have caused. The program is designed to provide you with knowledge on how to redeem your grief so that you are able to participate fully in life.

During the program you will complete your own grief processes. It is my role as an instructor to provide you with instructions, tools and support, but you will have to complete the work yourself. The program is not a therapy, but instead a way to provide you with  knowledge and offer support so that you can go through and complete your own grieving processes.

The course material we use is developed by John W. James and Russell Friedman who, during the last 30 years, personally have helped more than 25,000 mourners. For more information about the method you can read more at the Griefrecoverymethod.com or sorg.se (in Swedish).

I’m now certified to offer you  individual sessions where we meet 8 times x 1 hour or group sessions where we meet 12 times x 2 hours. I offer the sessions in Swedish, English or German.

For more information about the program, bookings and rates, please contact me at karin@hagelingriefrecovery.com.

Lots of love, Karin

How do I get the pieces of the puzzle together nicely?

I just read this wonderful quote and it felt exactly as if the words were written for me right now. I’ve tried to explain it to friends as the feeling you have when you know that you are about to get a clear view (finally) of where you are and where you are going but you are not out of the woods yet and therefor can’t see a thing.

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

Thomas Edson

It’s really frustrating and despite knowing that those thoughts are not helpful at all, I just can’t help myself getting stuck in the thinking pattern of “What the heck am I  supposed to be doing and how will I make money?” I just don’t want to miss my opportunity to shine in the world and to SERVE others by being the best ME that I could possibly be, so well described in this other genius quote I read recently:

 “There is a vitality, a life force, an energy a quickening that is translated through you into action and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is, nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours, clearly and directly, to keep the channel open.”

Martha Graham

It’s just that RIGHT NOW, this very minute I’m not at all clear on how to put the pieces of the puzzle together. I know what I’m good at and what I do with ease, but I just don’t know how to “package” it or make it a valid business. Just needed to get it off my chest and be done with it (and save it for the record 😉 )!

 I’m guided, life supports me and I’m safe. Love you all!

The weird wonders of vision boards!

I lerarnt about vision boards when I first med Edson Williams (leadbyexample.com) as I attended his workshop “Access to Success” in November 2010. So I decided to give it a go last year, with this result:

There was a lot about changing carreer and work on reaching my dreams, but also a picutre of Lilou Macé (liloumace.com), a web TV host who travels around the world interviewing just about any person she finds interesting! What a cool thing to do! And there are a lot of famous names on her interview list so go check her out on YouTube (liloumace).

Next week, on the 5th of July, I’m going to have lunch with Lilou in Stockholm!!!! I mean, how cool is that?! She is one of my role models right now regarding living the dream and her interviews has brought me to where I am today in a way. A lot of people she’s beein interviewing has helped me personally, and also helped me help others. I’ve bought tons of books, I’ve forwarded and posted hundreds of her interview links and I keep on following her progress.

This year’s vision board hosts a lot of head lines from a Magazine given out by Carolina Gårdheim at Kreativ Insikt in Stockholm (kreativinsikt.se), like “Find your own Life Artist”, “Creative Insight” and their Vision as it was so nicely written. I’ve now brought Lilou and Carolina togheter, Lilou will interview Carolina after our lunch together and I’m there as the glue! I just can’t believe that all of this is happening!

I’ll report back to you when that meeting has taken place 🙂  Until then I really urge you all to sit down and map your dreams, visions and goals by getting a stack of amgazines, a glue stick and a fairly big piece of paper in front of you and get creative!

Or if you feel that you don’t have space to put it somewhere, use a photo album that you can a) do smaller, themed vision boards in abd b) put away after you have looked at it for the day 🙂

Signing off and flying to Sweden on Monday!