Meditation – here we go!

After reading approximately a million books, all urging the importance of meditating for different reasons (Improved concentration, Less bothered by little things, Better Health, Knowledge of Self, etc etc etc, read more on “Pick the Brain“)  I have FINALLY decided to give it a go! It wasn’t until I read those words that I could finally let go of the “have do do it perfectly or not at all” mentality, maybe it will help you too:

Meditation is simply the art of relaxing your body and quietening your mind.  Meditation is learning to hold your attention on one thing, to the exclusion of all else, for about fifteen minutes. Fifteen minutes a day to close your eyes and clearing your mind  is all that you will need to expand your awareness. All you must do is to sit in a comfortable chair, place your feet on the floor, and put your hands on your lap. Close your eyes and inhale deeply. Then slowly exhale. Concentrate all your thoughts on one idea, “I am peace”, “I am still”, “I am relaxed” or only other simple repetitive mantra. Just expect to relax and think of nothing but relaxing and being quiet for fifteen minutes.

 

I have been avoiding it for many weird and wonderful reasons, “I don’t have the time”, “I’m never alone”, “I don’t have the right meditation pillow to sit on”, “I can’t sit in the Lotus pose”, “I feel ridiculous”, “What if someone in my family walks in on me?!” etc etc etc. And then finally, last week as I was reading one of these million books, I decided that enough is enough and I’ll give myself 15 minutes before going to bed and be persistent with it. I even told my husband that I’m going to be meditating, sitting in our bedroom with a candle so he knows and won’t disturb 🙂 No, he didn’t think I was weird (at least he didn’t say 😉 ), no, I haven’t bought myself a meditation pillow, and no, I don’t need to make it painful, hard or embarrassing, I just need to START doing it!

So I did and I’m still doing it. It actually feels like an adventure! What will happen once all those “everyday thoughts” stops grabbing the attention? What cool thoughts will finally have the space to emerge?! I’m really looking forward to this new tool.

To your own Meditation success and thanks for reading!

A desperately tired, frustrated and unfocused mother in need of a relaxed mind!

All over the place!

What a month April has been so far! I’ve crumbled under the “Saboteur”, having excessive amounts of coffee, chocolate (damn you, Easter bunny), biscuits, and obviously adding to the anger, frustration and the feeling of being all over the place and not knowing what thing to cross of my “to do” list first – only to find myself starring into space and feel paralysed.

What I have been doing is reading a lot of books, my friends who knows about my almost phobic fear of ghosts will laugh out loud, but there are books written by MEDIUMS!!! Yes, I’m reading about “GHOSTS”, well, at least people who can communicate with passed loved ones. I have no idea why I’m drawn to this right now, but I’m reading like one book A DAY, that’s how absorbed I am right now. The purpose will hopefully show itself further on, however I do find a lot of comfort in them as I now know that Ingrid is with me as I have been sensing.

Now this scattered person need to grab some lunch and cross a few things off her “to do” list as life happens regardless – there will always be things to mend, bring to the 2nd hand, bottles to throw at the recycling station and and and and…. Take care all of you!

 

April kick off on being REAL

So April is here and I’ve committed to take care of myself even more by putting one of my wedding rings on my right hand finger (so I don’t forget the promise I’ve made myself). It’s time to move to the next level and listen inward, to be aware of the thought patterns, the reactions to situations & people, to what my body is telling me and to be REAL!

REAL means writing about what happens in my life, even if it’s tough. Right this very moment I’m sending support by SMS to another family here in Switzerland who’s first born has SMA type 1 and was just put on oxygen today. I remember our oxygen- and Morphine days with Ingrid as if it was yesterday. It reminds me of when I was pacing up and down the flat with her on my arm and an oxygen tube following our stride, talking to her about life. That it was now so tough for her to breathe that she would be much better off playing with her granddad up in heaven. That we promised to continue to be happy and positive about life and that she would get to have brothers and sisters to look after in her own little way. And finally, after being very honest with her and daring to talk with her out loud about the stuff that you don’t even talk to your teenager about (or maybe you do, I don’t know actually…), she finally let go and left her sick body behind to go and play!

It’s when I get confronted with that reality that I get reminded of how precious life is and that we are here to learn and love, not compete and collect tons of STUFF. There is no such title as the “fattest bank account wins” (as far as I know…). I just read a beautiful story on Facebook, so I’ll paste it here as well because it was so true:

Today i read a story about an anthropologist who proposed a game to the kids in an African tribe. He put a basket full of fruit near a tree and told the kids that who ever got there first won the sweet fruits. When he told them to run they all took each others hands and ran together, then sat together enjoying their treats. When he asked them why they had run like that as one could have had all the fruits for himself they said: UBUNTU, how can one of us be happy if all the other ones are sad?

UBUNTU in the Xhosa culture (where my husband is from:) means: “I am because we are”.

Wendy @ Raising Natural Kids

I sincerely hope that we will all get this basic lesson right before I leave this Earth plane. It’s been rubbed out of our western brains from such an early age, and I find that so sad. What a loss! But to write about something and ACT upon something is not the same thing, is it?! I sense another “challenge” creeping up for the month of May…

What could be changed in our daily, western routines in order to move closer to this basic truth? What could make us think more in favour of cooperation and gain for all instead of “me first, and I want it all to myself”? Honestly, leave a comment if you have the slightest clue, I would love to hear them! Goodnight!